My Television Debut

Today wasn’t the first time I’ve been on TV, but it was the first time I’ve been on NATIONAL TV. CBS This Morning did a segment on the Blame and Shame ad campaign Georgia is running regarding childhood obesity. First, let me say I really applaud the children in the ads for being brave enough to put themselves out there and subject themselves to the many discussions taking place about the ad campaign. The young lady interviewed today stated she is beautiful and she needed to get herself healthy. Again, I applaud her for her attitude and her mother for providing an atmosphere at home where her daughter realizes her beauty is not directly tied to her weight. However, (you knew there was a big however coming, right?) very few pre-pubescent and adolescent kids who are affected by obesity are self confident enough and secure enough to talk about their weight on national TV.

As I explained yesterday, I was the “fat” kid, teenager and adult. I thank God every day for my gastric bypass which helped me get my weight under control and continues to help me keep it under control. At 46 years old and nearly 11 years post surgery, I continue to struggle with my body image. I continue to feel “fat.” As I was sitting in the studio waiting to give this interview, ear bud in place, microphone on, first I was thinking about was what am I going to say? How am I going to get my point across? How am I going to make them understand this blame and shame is wrong, wrong, wrong? I was also thinking, sit up, sit up straight, TV adds 10 pounds, will they wonder why this “fat” person is speaking about childhood obesity? Then, I overheard the conversation through the ear bud…the two letters that strike fear in the heart of every woman…HD. We’re filming in HD, got to have the HD feed going. Holy moley, all thoughts about what I was going to say floated out the window. All I could think of was, HD, HD, I knew I should have put on more concealer! Will my brown spot show? What about my turkey gobbler? Oh no, my turkey gobbler will be in HD for all the world to see!

Well the segment has aired, Chloe is beautiful. She is confident, intelligent and making the right choices. If the campaign was focused on the same topics that she was interviewed on, it could really have a positive effect. Instead, the campaign is derogatory, stigmatizing and simply disappointing.

CBS This Morning Segment: Child in Controversial Ad Campaign Speaks Out You can view the segment here. I feel I did get a tiny bit of my point across. Yes, you could see my turkey gobbler in HD, but my hair looked pretty darn good!

BariBelle

Shame the Kids and Blame the Parents

What is your gut reaction to an image like this?

In case you haven’t heard, there has been a sharp increase in childhood obesity in the U.S. in the last decade. It’s actually estimated the current generation of children being born may be the first generation not to outlive their parents. This is specifically related to the rise in obesity and the severity of obesity related health conditions. While many choose to stick their heads in the sand and ignore the issue, others, such as the Obesity Action Coalition are seeking ways to educate parents, teachers and healthcare providers on how together we can work to address this alarming rise in obesity among our children. Still others, who shall remain nameless (but not for long), feel the best route to address childhood obesity is to shame the children and blame the parents. This alarming campaign uses children affected by obesity on billboards and in ads with statements that make these children and others direct targets for the haters and the bullies. Some of the ads state, “Fat Kids Become Fat Adults,” and “Big Bones Didn’t Make Me This Way, Big Meals Did.” Since the bullies didn’t have nearly enough hurtful, demeaning taunts for kids affected by obesity, I would like to publicly thank Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta for providing fresh fuel for the fire.

I was that fat kid in school. On the first day of first grade, I was greeted with, “Hello, Chub Chub.” I heard that greeting for the next 12 years. Of course, that was 40 years ago. There were only 2 of us “fatties” in our first grade class. In middle school, there were 5 of us. Not a single one of us had parents that were obese. I played on the high school tennis team (not very well, but that’s another story), I rode my bike, I grew up on a farm where I helped out by walking behind the tobacco setter and picked up rocks in the field, meaning I ate what my parents ate, I was active, but I was still an obese child and an obese teenager and an obese adult. I have been made fun of my whole life because of my weight and it didn’t help me lose a single pound.

If shaming worked, then in high school I would have been wearing those cute size 3 Levi’s, not the Lane Bryant 18s with the rainbow stitching down the leg. Instead, this is how shaming works. You have someone who is already overweight, obese, “fat”. Chances are pretty high they already have low self esteem, a low sense of self worth and are already self isolating from others as protection from the shame, blame and ridicule of the bullies. You feel miserable and alone. What’s the one thing that may bring a brief temporary feeling of pleasure? Carb laden food (which creates a chemical reaction that stimulates the pleasure center in our brain). Which you eat in private to self medicate those deeply wounded feelings of despair. Then afterward, you feel so guilty and so shameful that a vicious cycle begins.

Wow, shaming is obviously so effective for treating obesity, let’s move on to blaming. Any time anything is not quite right in our world, there has to be fault, right? Not our fault of course, but someone’s fault. The sooner you assign blame to someone else, the sooner you’re no longer part of the problem, but part of the solution, right? I hope by now you’ve realized my level of sarcasm is off the chart today!

When I was a new mom, (24 years ago!) I had absolutely no idea what my son was supposed to weigh or how much weight he was supposed to gain at what intervals. When we would go in for well baby visits and the pediatrician would tell me he was in the 99th percentile for weight or “off the chart” I didn’t know that was a bad thing. I heard 99th percentile and correlated that to making a 99% on a test, it must be good, right? It was never explained to me as a new mother that the target was the 50th percentile. [INSERT OPPORTUNITY FOR EDUCATION HERE!] We bottle fed our children with formula. Since they were “big babies” they needed more food, right? We started putting cereal in their formula at 3 months. [INSERT OPPORTUNITY FOR EDUCATION HERE!] As the boys became older, we continued not to allow soda in our house; however, I now know the amount of juice they were drinking was empty liquid calories. [INSERT OPPORTUNITY FOR EDUCATION HERE!] There are many other opportunities for education of our parents and our children regarding: portion sizes, food choices, how to read a nutrition label, how various foods make our bodies feel and how those foods affect how our bodies run.

Wake up people! We as a nation did not just wake up one morning to find 68 percent of us overweight or obese. We did not wave a magic Twinkie wand that caused 1 out of 3 of our children to become affected by obesity. If we could all just choose our weight, I’m pretty confident very few of us would choose to have a BMI that puts our health at risk and makes us fodder for Jay Leno. I’m equally confident our children would not choose to be made fun of or to be bullied every day simply because of their size. It is time we acknowledge that obesity is a complex, multi-factorial disease process that requires multiple avenues of treatment. We have to begin early to focus on prevention by educating our parents, teachers and children. We have to provide access to all levels of treatment for all levels of obesity. But wait, that might cost money, right? It will, but it won’t cost nearly as much as the treatments for all of the obesity related health conditions we currently treat: diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, reflux, cancer. We do cover treatment for diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, reflux and cancer; we would never dream of not covering those treatments. So why do we not cover the same level of treatment for adult and childhood obesity? Oh, I know, because shaming and blaming is so much more effective, right? Oh, and its cheaper too, right? Hmmm, I believe those billboards, ads, and websites were pretty expensive. Money much better spent on classes, training, education, screening and treatment. But if we did that…it might mean we were treating obesity like a complex, multi-factorial disease process.

BariBelle

Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

Let sleeping dogs lie? Where's the fun in that?

You have probably heard that old expression before, to “Let sleeping dogs lie,” or alternately, “Don’t poke a skunk.” Both warning you not to rock the boat. You should “just go with the flow, accept things as they are, etc.” Enough of this nonsense! If you don’t shake things up every now and then, you’ll never know what coulda, shoulda, woulda been.

I don’t mean you should go out and incite a riot or anything of that magnitude, but if you continue to do what you’ve always done, then you’ll have what you always have. Oh my, apparently I can’t stop myself!

I love going into a job, any type of job whether it’s a new work role, volunteer role or even just a home project and figuring out why things currently are the way they are and how we can work together to make them better. At work, when I’m trying to figure out why we’re doing something a particular way, they know better than to give me the answer, “because we’ve always done it that way.” I’m sorry, but that just doesn’t cut it with me. I am challenging each and every one of you to challenge something in your life. Ask yourself, “Why, why, why am I doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results?”

For example, you may be planning to work on your weight “one more time.” Have you always waited until Monday to start your diet? Why? Other days of the week work just fine. If you fall off the wagon, do you view that as a green light to eat whatever you want the rest of the day? Why? So you weren’t perfect, none of us are, start back on track right now, today. Do you feel the need to prepare “special, diet food” just for you and another meal for your family? Why? This time make it a lifestyle change for everyone in your family and focus on how together you can make fun, nutritious meals and not on making anyone feel deprived because they’re on a DIET.

Poke that skunk. Wake up that sleeping dog, ’cause they can be a LOT of fun, they can change your attitude and help you change your life. I’m off to wake up those sleeping dogs!

BariBelle